January 2011
132 posts
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Rule No. 96
My Grandmother always tells me that worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair- it gives you something to do but gets you nowhere. So think about something else. Whatever is worrying you will work out because it always does. Instead of worrying go fix a drink and enjoy this beautiful life that we get to live.
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Rule No. 95
It is absolutely necessary to have standards set for when looking for a special person in your life. That being said, do not have so many standards set that keep you from a truly special relationship. If you will only date “6’0” guy with brown eyes, a beach house, drives a Jeep Wrangler, and is Roman Numerals attached to the end of his last name.” Exactly what you...
bon-mot asked: hello! your blog is absolutely the cutest. i have a question about white bottoms/shoes. i've seen others, and maybe yourself, say you can't wear your summer whites after confederate memorial day which is in June in TN. am i getting this right? being a southerner i was surprised i had never heard of this, but am excited about embracing the new tradition.
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Rule No. 94
As far as not knowing what you should get for that special man in your life, he will go weak in the knees if you buy him tickets to see his favorite team play. Professional football, basketball, baseball- he will love it.
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Rule No. 93
“Be pretty if you can, be witty if you must, be gracious if it kills you.” -Elsie de Wolfe
Anonymous asked: I just started reading today. I appreciate your response to the post about Confederate Memorial Day. I looked it up after you posted, and discovered it is an opportunity to honor those who died fighting for the Confederacy in the Civil War. I am a Midwestie, but I found the tradition honorable all the same. I believe there is nothing wrong with remembering those who have gone before us.
coffeeandwords-deactivated20110 asked: I am from the North, and reading these rules makes me wish even more that I was from the south! I love the lifestyle, the music, and may I say so the men :) I try hard to be a classy lady and follow my own rules which seam to correspond nicely to yours! Your blog is a real insperation and a constant reminder to act like a real lady. Also not all northerners are confederate haters! Robert E. Lee!...
Anonymous asked: Do you make these "rules" up or get them from somewhere? Oh and what about "rules" for a southern gentleman? They don't have any rules?
I find that some of these so-called "rules" are ridiculous. Are southern girls not supposed to or allowed to have a sense of individuality or independence? It seems like you want every girl to be the same. God forbid if...
I find that some of these so-called "rules" are ridiculous. Are southern girls not supposed to or allowed to have a sense of individuality or independence? It seems like you want every girl to be the same. God forbid if...
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Rule No. 92
Doing something nice for someone else not only makes their day but it will make your day as well. Try it sometime. Actually, try it everyday.
Anonymous asked: Do you really celebrate a holiday called "Confederate Memorial Day?" As a Northerner, I know most people would find this concept outrageous. Is there any recognition or repentance of slavery during this "celebration"?
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Rule No. 91
Do not ever let someone tell you that you can’t or that you’re not worth it. That is absolutely ridiculous and should never have any doubts about that.
keepondancing asked: If you had to make a list of 10 core classy/southern clothes and accessories, what would it consist of?
Any questions burning you up inside? Just ask....
Anonymous asked: I've always wondered... when is it acceptable to start wearing white again? I always start when it gets warmer outside.
also, I've always thought the "no wearing white after labor day" rule applied to shoes and bottoms only. also dresses. not shirts. what do you think?
from one southern girl to another :)
also, I've always thought the "no wearing white after labor day" rule applied to shoes and bottoms only. also dresses. not shirts. what do you think?
from one southern girl to another :)
Anonymous asked: What is the real reason behind not wearing white after Labor Day?
Anonymous asked: I love the one about white after labor day. Pet peeve of mine. Also where in SC are you from I have a lot of family there. They live in Lugoff, near Camden. About 30 minutes from Columbia.
If The Rules were published in a book would you...
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Rule No. 90
Though it’s hard, try to always be thankful for the things you have instead of the things you do not have. Always strive for bigger and better but never resent all the amazing things you are blessed to have in your life.
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Rule No. 89
If you are interested in the guy you are chatting with, do NOT, by any means, turn him down when he asks, “Can I get you a drink?” I do not care if you just got a drink. Casually put it down or finish it quickly. Telling him, “Oh no, I’m good right now” will be the end of that. Always, always, always let him get you a drink.
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Rule No. 88
If your parents request your attendance at church, you be there. And wear a dress.
turnaroundandwrongitt asked: love the blog! do you like Gone With the Wind? I think it should be on every Southern Belle's reading list =)
georgiaskyes asked: I really love your blog and the idea behind it! As a young southern lady myself, I appreciate someone else who sets a certain standard for themselves and lives by it everyday! Graciousness and gentility definitely matter!
You're doing us proud, darlin :)
You're doing us proud, darlin :)
aboutangela asked: what state in the south are you from?
If you have any questions about The Rules or how...
cuanbreacadh asked: I absolutely love your blog! I like being able to reread over things I've learned from my family over the years, especially since you word it so well. :)
Anywho, to my question. I've been curious lately, since I know quite a few people that are quite classy, but they can curse like sailors every so often. I've always been taught that a foul mouth is not lady-like. What's...
Anywho, to my question. I've been curious lately, since I know quite a few people that are quite classy, but they can curse like sailors every so often. I've always been taught that a foul mouth is not lady-like. What's...
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Rule No. 87
Learn how to fire a gun. You do not have to go hunt every weekend but it is a skill that may prove invaluable. And besides, boys love it.
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Rule No. 86
When people are rude to you in public, never raise your voice or show them who’s boss or whatever else. Put your big girl panties on and say, “You might be right.” There is no comeback for that statement and instantly ends drama. There is nothing worse than being known for having a lot of drama. Now, I am absolutely not saying to be a pushover. Simply put, pick your battles...
devotedtofrontporches asked: Is it possible to be the definition of a Northerner, Canadian.. , and still feel like somehow the South is where you belong? I feel like in a past life I was some kind of Southern Belle, I just feel drawn to the South. The happiest times of my life have been wandering through the streets of Savannah. I hope to live there when I get a little older, and although I am not a true Southerner, I know...
Anonymous asked: which state are you from?
sodamngirly asked: I am Northern born and bred, but I love your rules.
Guess I have a little Southern in me?
Guess I have a little Southern in me?
grandmaspearl asked: Instant follow! Love your blog. You need to publish these amazing rules as a book! Far too many people are lacking in charm, etiquette and other areas in this world.
Also, I am going to print my favorite rules and make notebook covers for myself out of them, would that be alright by you?
Also, I am going to print my favorite rules and make notebook covers for myself out of them, would that be alright by you?
Not one of The Rules but still worth reading.
There’s still some kindness in the world.
For most of us, traveling is a nightmare, especially when traveling by plane. For one man who was flying Southwest this week, it was a godsend.
Sources have shared this moving story of a grandfather who was trying to get to his gate at the airport so he could say goodbye to his 3-year old grandson. The poor boy was brutally body-slammed by his...
sidneymargaret asked: i just added you and already am in love with this blog! these are the things my mama taught me, and more girls oughtta know! i love love love it!! <3
Anonymous asked: have you thought about uploading an icon?
thekellysisters asked: Just dropped by to say I love this :) keep up the awesome-ness!
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Rule No. 84
Always follow the six inch rule: the first six inches starting at your fingertips, toes, and the top of your head should always look great. Your fingernails, toe nails, and hair looking put together and polished will carry you a long way.
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Rule No. 83
If you want to limit the number of items you lose or damage when you go to a party or football game or any other crowded event, invest in a cross body bag. Or don’t and keep buying cameras.
Anonymous asked: As a young lady from New England I fully support and love this blog. They apply to everyone, not just Southern ladies. These rules should be written into a book and distributed to every high school in the country. Keep up the good work! :)
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Rule No. 82
If you want to monogram something, put a monogram on it. Never let anyone make you feel like you are going overboard. Just tell them, “My initials are going to be changing before too much longer and I want to see as much of my current ones as I can.” They will not question you anymore.
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Rule No. 81
The higher the standard you set for yourself will reflect on those around you. If you talk with your mouth full, you are sure to attract others that do the same. Likewise, if you constantly use proper manners and grammar, you will attract those that do the same.
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Rule No. 80
Sometimes the only thing that can heal the soul is the sound of a steel guitar and some heartfelt country lyrics. Always have a country CD or playlist handy for those trying days. Or for throwing a party. Garth Brooks is a crowd pleaser. Without fail.
acarefullycuratedcloset asked: Just thought I'd let you know that I LOVE your rules =)
bellesbowsandaniphone asked: Love all of your rules :) They all definitely remind me of the unwritten rules that every young lady should follow (even the northern ones!).
Anonymous asked: bitch whats wrong with you
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Rule No. 79
When speaking, you are not done with something. A cake is done. You, my dear, are finished. And it is always yes, never yeah. Speaking properly will make you shine far brighter than those around you.
Anonymous asked: I live in the midwest and I must say, the traditions/rules you have posted about pearls are true around here as well. I own a set of pearls from my grandma and I love them to death. They may not be real, but all that matters to me is that they were hers. She has passed on and whenever I wear them, I feel like a part of her is with me and it's very comforting.
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Rule No. 78
Tears will do you no good. Only cry when it is absolutely warranted. Otherwise, keep your eyes sparkly, bright, and full of life. It’s easier to charm someone when your eyes are sparkling.
rowenatheravenclaw-deactivated2 asked: Submission:
Ruffles, like chicken soup are good for the soul. Wear them in earnest but wear them well. There is such a thing as overdoing it. Pick one item in your outfit to display this feminine touch.
Ruffles, like chicken soup are good for the soul. Wear them in earnest but wear them well. There is such a thing as overdoing it. Pick one item in your outfit to display this feminine touch.
devon-shea asked: I love your rules....and I'm a Northern girl (horror!) :)
belleandabow asked: Love the rules! All of these I have heard many a time and its soo nice to see them out there! keep up the good work xoxo